Perhaps if your connection to National COPS means in fact you are a survivor, you can explain the membership in COPS (or as we say, the most healthy club you never want to become a member of...  (I am very sorry for your loss, Jennifer)

And you would be able to explain this difference between  all of the fun wives and support group that is  there in case tragedy srikes.  Preparation .  It does not cause harm

PLEASE TELL YOUR STORY FOR THE DISCOVERY BAY THREAD